Take that First Step: Make a Promise and Keep It!
From here on, vow to live life with more confidence, zeal and greater surety. Of course, this does not mean you must forgo humility. Humility is a virtue that pleases God the most.However, falling into the trap of false humility is no virtue hence having a healthy sense of self-esteem and confidence in one’s self is crucial to growing in self- confidence.
Growing in self-confidence also means facing your fears, and simply doing.
Self- confidence ought to serve a bigger goal. The bigger goal would ideally be that which meets the common good of all. So a healthy self-confidence is not for the sake of ‘self’ but rather to equip oneself with the ability to serve others.Now dealing with people is no easy task. There are all kinds of people in this world. Those with minds, views, outlook, worldviews, egos, formation, education, motives, interests etc. that are most likely very different from your own.
Not to mention people with inferiority complexes and a superiority complexes. This, in other words, is true self-confidence that missed the mark. Everyone’s trying to achieve ‘good’ for themselves but with lack of grace from above we all miss the mark.But in some sense this is what makes us human, this is the ‘human compost’ that we have to deal with. And since humility is most pleasing to God, we could recognize the ingredients in ourselves that keeps us from achieving true ‘self-confidence’ and leaving us trapped in untruth and feeling a lack of fulfilment.
We can become a blessing to those around us when our formation, views, motives and interests and most importantly actions are geared towards the good of everyone. We bear in mind the common good based on truths about our human worth which comes from above.
So grow in self-confidence by doing. And do what you fear the most, you will experience the joy of conquering your ‘excuses’ and growing in self-confidence.